WHY did I say that? Feeling statements are often used in therapy and many mental health professionals encourage their use in everyday communication. Uggh.. it is really getting to me. I just went to my gyno yesterday and she wanted be to take anxiety medicine for at least one month to see if it works, instead of putting me of HRT. Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. I don't have any other "bad" symptoms like bloating, bleeding, heart burn, weight gain just this pressure down. Research suggests that I-messages can improve communication, which is why they are often used in couples counseling, family therapy, and other therapeutic interventions. You really will be ok. I live in Spain where we have free medical for everyone, but if you go holistic you do pay out of pocket. They put it down to diverticulitis, which of course can cause digestive issues too. Don't really bother me but do any of you ladies have this awful nausea? While this statement starts with an expression of how the speaker feels, it concludes with an accusation. if so thats a big hope for me . Hopefully in a few years we will feel back to a new normal. I am having the same thing. By placing the attention primarily on the feelings and needs of the speaker, it focuses the conversation on solving a problem rather than assigning blame. Hi Sherrici I'm so sorry that you are going through this also, no you are definately not imaging these symptoms. How are you doing darlin. the constant worry of something horrible is going to happen!!! I just started menopause, I feel very weird and sick at time. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. it was prescribed me for palpitations but i felt even sicker taking it . the rib or flank pain is scary for me. Thank you In advance . mind you it was very painful some days but I guess sad to say I've learned most days to cope. For example, a person might say something like, "I feel like you don't care.". Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. Hi, with regards to your bladder pressure have a read about vaginal atrophy, it is caused by low estrogen levels. I absolutely agree with everything that you said. We will get through this together/apart and I can't tell you (to the moderators) how much I personally appreciate this forum.It has some nights made the difference of me going to sleep with peace of mind I am not alone! But i was wondering what happened about your alp being elevated.Ive just had liver function tests and they are all normal except alp , which is raised 128. I believe in GOD, so I put all my faith in him. Thank you for reading my frustrations . Wow, this comment is so relatable. I've had all scans bloods done it goes on! I know what it's like when you are just wanting someone to talk to and seems like you are going through this alone. Couples therapy and family therapy are two types of psychotherapy where people practice this form of interpersonal communication. I had an ice-cream bar the other night right before I went to bed and HOLY HELL! Moderator comment: I have removed the contact details as we do not publish these in the forums. Is it possible to feel like crap 80% of the month? Can I ask which menopause supplements are you taking? I feel like under the possession of an evil force. We should have (when COVID is over) a national menopause convention like in Las Vegas. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use And tons of other symptoms but No hot flashes. I had lots of tests all came back negative. Hot flashes come and go. Right now my biggest symptom is my bladder. I hope that reassures you a bit. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. The nauseau and anxiety are just awful. my doctor told me to make a will too and that this would help. Neck pain, Overwhelming feeling doom, I panic jump in my car drove near the hospital which is 10minutrs drive from my house. Looking forward to a couple of days off over Christmas. I found that what helped was Probiotic Pearls for women's vaginal and digestive health. please let me know . Loss of appetite, feelings of doom. I dont hardly have it anymore. I last bled in December and FSH test came out at 76. have you ever been given an explanation? i given up i dont think ever will get back to normal..its been 10 years for me! Allergies are also annoying, coffee and oats for me and now I crave a cappuccino and porridge!! Every day I wake up saying I am going to be strong but then another symptom appears! 2018;6:e4831. As always, life is full of complexities, and there's never a "right time" to do menopause. I can hardly get through my day. just awaiting on results from a biopsys that was took from left breast yesterday , get results next tuesday , but praying and asking God for good result , thanx for reply , nobody quite understands as the out of things that can come from menapause. Our clinical information meets the standards set by the NHS in their Standard for Creating Health Content guidance. I apologize for the TMI. I wish you well with everything and hope these symptoms will be a thing of the past for all of us. Gave up on docs office. Once the feeling is stated, it should be connected to an issue or event. Our softgels are made using nanoemulsion technology that increases CBD's bioavailability, making it easier for the body to . By using feeling statements during family therapy, family members can begin to communicate with one another more effectively. I'm not sure if i caused them myself with the constant worry. I have had every test you can think of as well and feel the same as you. Perhaps her ideas were sought as well as the other persons and together they made a plan. Very light. but my health anxiety is through the roof and I keep thinking there has to be something wrong with me but they just haven't found it yet, aw bless you i know the feeling, are you taking iron? So it must be this menopause making some of us lose control on ourselves. 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This article discusses what "I feel" statements are, how they are used, and why they are beneficial in communication. hi just ready all glory to god , bit I'm in a constant battle everyday I have some many things that's physical wrong with me , for aches pains to cramps tingling numbing surges of pain in bust hip aches groin pains back aches, stiff neck back of head shoulders weird headaches , light-headedness sometimes like I'm just floating ,it's a daily constant battle, I went through some really dark times in my mind and tried hrt but think that caused more light-headedness palpitations dropping in BP heart rate , had ecg done that's OK so just stopped taking it , but still constant feel ill daily , and now I have been called back for further testing following a mammogram, so I am all over the show , then I have to get down and seek God, because that's all I can do . I-messages can vary in terms of how they are formed and utilized, and they don't necessarily need to begin with the words, "I feel." Patient is a UK registered trade mark. As you look at the example, remember that feeling statements are often called "I statements" as the first word is "I" not "you.". For me, faith too is cornerstone in this struggle. My worst symptom is health anxiety. Thanks for that Sherricl I also had one polyp removed there and then just waiting for another one to be removed and hoping all is well with test results . All rights reserved. How are you honey! have you had any tests? The health anxiety I have developed is almost paralysing. I don't own this song. I feel the same have so many peri menopausal symptoms , im in a constant pain days in days out . This Corona Virus lockdown is not helping either. I think in part He is what led me to the menopause boards!. It would last a few days each month and I had to make myself eat. It would really make me feel better if you could help me with this.". Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience. Im 55; will be 56 in August. Finally, a solution should be given. shari. Maybe because of declining estrogen. Is this a normal thing with this (post-menopause)? has anyone else felt this and any relief or diagnosis? For example, a person might say, "I feel angrywhen I am alone and you are out with your friends.". Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. plus some strange behavior where I'd look back and think, WHY did I do that? I saw your post about rib and left side pain. This defeats the goal of using feeling statements. I speak to my kids about the situation but not to the full extent of what I'm going thru, so they don't really understand all these weird symptoms I'm getting. My prayers are with all of us. You are absolutely right about googling. I think together and reading each other's posts, it makes us hopeful and not so alone! I honestly didn't see it coming. I am taking a natural supplement for perimenopause but don't know if it's helping. growing physically and menatlly very tired. Nat Commun. The anxiety (about health and dying) is ALL the time. Thank God autoimmune diseases have been ruled out. I feel for you, because I am feeling the same way. I hope you feel better but at least you know you aren't alone. I took a 5mg valium and jumped in my car and drove to the vicinity of the hospital thinking I'm going to get a heart attack and die making several rounds on the block without going in! All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek When I first started this menopause "thang" I was like "this is a piece of cake"! stay safe xoxoxo. I understand the confusion between peri symptoms and recovering from Covid. Out of all the symptoms I have had, the urinary ones were the worst! Always seems to be one thing after the other, water infections a few months back were awfulI also fall into the trap of googling.. I've tried my hardest not to Google symptoms because of course everything points to cancer (my biggest fear). Tired from insomnia, horrible gas, racing heart, anxiety, one minute I'm freezing with chills and the next I'm hot, dry itchy skin, you name it, I've felt it, weird head pressure, horrible dreams and feelings of dread, just all kinds of stuff. my cardiologist prescribed me for palpitations but my body didnt like at all i felt i was passing out . What next! Although there is some mention of the other persons behavior, the focus continues to be on the uncomfortable feeling experienced by the speaker. Right before meno hit I had a 2 month period that seemed endless and I honestly thought I was gonna die. On bad days, my whole body hurts. I do have fibroids and IBS and am recovering from Covid too (mine was very gastric) so none of that helps me understand what's going on and why. Im scared at nights as well, I had a panic attack the other night, I was so scared!! I don't get any pain either with this, and before I never got pain with IC . i also take a variety of supplements- calcium, b, d, probiotic, etc and my husband is thinking i'm a hypochondriac! xx. Rocking sensation, like I'm swaying. I was OK with my single life. Honestly it's terrible. My new found thing (and it seems like something new or nagging every damn day) is my head feels all fuzzy! Research also suggests that this approach can be helpful when communicating with others: Some settings where I-messages are frequently utilized include: This technique is frequently used in couples therapy to help improve communication in romantic relationships. I'm having the same problems with my liver.My Alp is 150 and I'm getting test done next week and google has scared the crap out of me. yes I'm the same. Spoke too soon! I am not bleeding, no heart burn, not bloated, not gaining or losing any weight just the occasional nausea which has been going on for years. The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for anonymous statistical purposes. I also have lower central back pain but I have 3 messed up vertebrae so that is explained. I think the polyp made my lining look thicker than it was. My doctors think i blow everything out of proportion. I did need to start taking medication, but I don't want to be on it. Doctors didnt have a clue so i googled and next thing i had all these weird, crazy diseases.. Just let me know if you have any questions. 2018;9(1):2474. doi:10.1038/s41467-018-04925-y, Rogers SL, Howieson J, Neame C. I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict. I don't understand how hormones can do this to a person. I am a believer in God/Jesus as well and He is my Saviour! i have severe nausea, ear ringing, and every other horrible symptom. Came upon this thread while googling my symptoms. Hi l am the same postmenopausal 4 years had negative smear in july one week later all menopause symptoms back with a vengance fear of death constantly panic hot sweats depression had to start ads citalopram 20 been taking for 6 weeks hope it will work cant carry on like this .Keep well ladies. I feel hungry but nauseated at the same time. one of a million new and strange things that's happened to me that I didnt have an actual term for. One way to accomplish this is through the use of "I feel" statements, also known as feeling statements, I-messages, or just I-statements. Thanks! I also noticed I cannot tolerate chocolate anymore. Mine is like you said with the upper stomach. Then the nausea which would come in waves. Feeling statements can be helpful in both everyday communication as well as in therapeutic settings. error404,theme-capri,qode-core-2.1.1,select-core-2.1.1,woocommerce-no-js,ajax_fade,page_not_loaded,,capri-ver-3.3, vertical_menu_background_opacity, vertical_menu_with_scroll,smooth_scroll,no_animation_on_touch,fade_push_text_top,paspartu_enabled,woocommerce_installed,blog_installed,wpb-js-composer js-comp-ver-6.4.2,vc_responsive. Stretching and walking seems to help. I have a lot of anxiety over it! praying for us all, Hi there! usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive. Sadness is a bit foreign to me, usually I'm happy go lucky. Going through meno is awful! Using feeling statements takes practice, and it may be hard to use them consistently, especially at first. I am 49 so this is a (fairly) early age to already be postmeno, but Mom went thru it at 49 as well. When i get to three weeks of nightly Premarin, ill cut back to twice a week maitenance. Treatment such as creams and pessaries are often very effective in helping the symptoms. But even then , I think it was triggered to my hormones. I am so sorry I just seen this. Thinking of you too! Me too , i took propranolol for palpitaions and felt that im about to passout . i am at the end of my rope. And it does make you feel nausea. I am supposed to see a rheumatologist on Feb 14. I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. my constant upset stomach/trapped air burping/ feeling unsteady when i walk is the worst one, amxiety, feel like i have ongoing flu. After reading through everybody's stories, hormone fluctuation seems to fit. I use calendula every morning. i am glad to say while they can still come, they are at least frequent. Praying like you that this is just another "symptom" and not cancer. I know exactly how you feel, anxiety is putting so much strain on my life, I don't sleep well as I get panic attacks, fear that I'm dying, I live alone and it makes it worse as I fear something will happen and I have no one to help me. My doctor thinks I am a hypochondriac (and lately I would have to agree). I am sorry you are feeling this way too. i can totally picture myself doing this! You are SO not alone! My fault though i guess i should have googled "urinary problems in menopause" . It took a while to fall asleep but this morning I wake up and its not as bad, not sure if it's anxiety causing this. It also helps each person better understand how their own actions affect other members of the family. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. Have you ever gotten this? I also have my digestive woes like you so you are definitely not alone. Hopefully it's the end of my period as I'm 53. When one person is communicating in a way that is non-confrontational and emotion-focused, the listeners are more likely to match their own responses to that of the speaker. and I wait in the car park without going in. Peri and meno didn't get me, postmeno is what's killing me. It is likely that Susan only got a defensive response. "While you're running and in the period when you get back from a run you do seem better able to focus. This of course made me very cranky. x, Hi, my periods are very irregular, I won't have a period for 3-4 months, then I'll have one every 18 days a few times, the 5 months withoutI've had quite a lot of tests, bloods, been to 2 neurologists, gynae, gastro docs, all okish, except for Sibo and low in vit d and iron. 'I feel' statements are a way of communicating the speaker's feelings or beliefs. I have that same weird head pressure. 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